Love the Details of Your Problems — The Transcript

Tom’s University. Love the details of your life. Love the details of your problems.

That’s the focus of this class. Love the details of your life, every moment of your life and love the details of your problems every moment of your waking life at least. There’s always a problem on your plate. What do you pay attention to right now?  ”Do I pay attention to this? Do I keep doing this or do I stop doing this and do I do something else?”  Problems, as I’m framing them, are as simple as that, or there are more complex problems: relationship problems or work problems, neighbor problems, time management problems.  Right?

Life is problems. There’s always a problem in your life. So to optimally solve the problems in your life, love the details of the problem.  “Love” — I’m reminding you – “love” means pay attention, pay attention to the problem, accept to the reality of the problem, care for the problem.  That’s “loving the problem.” Yeah, love the details of the problem, of your problems. That’s a more optimally functional strategy for problem solving. “Oh, what is this problem?” “Oh, and what is it about this problem?” “Oh, let’s see, can we solve this piece of the problem?” Yeah. If you love the details of the problem on your plate, you’re going to love solving the problem. Yeah, love your life. Love the details of your life. Love the details of your problems. That’s the concept, the class, the direction for this class.

And now, I was trained, and I think our culture encourages this, to go like, “Bad, problems!” “Oh, you got a problem? Bad!” It teaches us to react to problems with some kind of negative reaction. [chuckle] And if I were to say the biggest problem in my plate right now, it’s that pattern.  Yeah. I have a pattern of reacting to problems in my mind whether I even just think of a problem. My automatic pattern is to react to the problem like, “Oh no! Oh, problem! Oh, no! Oh!” Okay, that’s a reaction, that’s an emotional reaction I tend… Yeah, that’s a problem for me. I tend to react to problems with an emotional, “Oh no! Yuck! Problem!” Well, at least you can tell from this class that I get the concept that’s not optimally functional. It’s much more optimally functional, “Oh problem! Oh, problem! Oh, okay, here’s a problem! Oh, here’s a problem on my plate, Oh, wow! Look at that problem! Oh! Wow, okay, problem! Okay, I see you problem, oh, I see you problem. Oh, okay! We’re going to get to you right now, yeah, okay, no, you’re not a bad problem. You’re just a problem. No, don’t put yourself down, ‘problem.’  Okay problem, okay, like, oh, problems!”   So, like that, I was kind of mocking up the energy but like, yeah, there wasn’t any reaction there. There was recognition. No reaction, recognition of the problem. I wasn’t resisting the problem. I wasn’t reacting to the problem with that little role play, I guess you would say.

Yeah, love the details of your problems. So, that’s what this class is about for me is to helping me with my problem of reacting to problems. Yeah, okay, so this is a principle. I’m linking… This is a principle at Tom’s University. Okay, so, I have a problem. I’m saying I have a problem of reacting to my problems. And when I say I have a problem, that’s a pattern, I have an automatic pattern of reacting to my problems, okay. So, right at this moment in this class, I’m recognizing. “Oh! That automatic problem, that automatic pattern is a problem! Oh, okay! So now let’s love this problem. Okay.” Well, at Tom’s University we have a technique, that when you notice an automatic pattern, don’t immediately go… Don’t react to the automatic pattern. Instead go: “This is where I’m at. This is where I’m at. This is where I’m at,” which is really just another way of saying, “Oh! Here’s the problem! Oh! Here’s the problem. Let’s love the details of this problem. Oh! This is where I’m at, this is where I’m at. Great! So, this is where I’m at, this is where I’m at!” That’s a way in to loving the details of your problems.

Love the details of your life, love the details of your problems. This is where I am at with this problem. “Oh, okay.” Immediately, as I take that in, that energy, “this is where I am at. This is where I’m at with  my problem.”  There is room for me to embrace this problem, there is room for me to love this problem. Now, now I am starting… Love the problem, then, next step is love the solving, problem-solving. Wow! Wow! If you don’t love the problem, and I am going to give you synonyms, accept the reality of the problem with neutrality. That’s what love is. Love is no judgment, good or bad. Love is… Love is accepting, love is paying attention, love is… Love is… Yeah, embracing, love is seeing. “Okay here’s… Oh, this is where I’m at with this problem. Okay.” If you don’t love the details of the problem, if you’re resisting the problem, you are not going to love solving the problem. And this is a problem in your life, so you’re not going to be loving your life in that moment. Here we are. Love the details of your life every moment. Yeah, love the details of your life every moment, that’s loving your life. And love the details of your problems. That’s the class today.